Tag Archives: feelings

Feb 26 2013

Decidedly had enough…

I spent an hour in the bank yesterday. Trying to sort out the mess they’ve made. 

Their excuse we ‘the appointment was for the 23rd March’ 

 

No way. We wouldn’t have agreed to that… an 8 week wait… 

 

So after kicking off at my bank manager. She got me an emergency call back for today. I had a few issues in work because I’m so stressed out. I forgot to include something and my cash was out. Took 20 mins to find it with my manager. And then I was late home. They did ring me back however. A nice guy called Raj…. 

 

But… 

 

 

After starting the whole process again. FIVE minutes into the conversation. And he asked. ‘Have any of you been made bankrupt or in an IVA’ so I answered as I did 2 weeks ago. 

 

Yes we’ve been in an IVA. It has been closed for nearly 3 years now. 

 

He turned about and said they wouldn’t offer us a mortgage anyway. Just on that answer. 

 

WHAT!!!! 

 

Why the hell didn’t the stupid woman we talked too two weeks ago, like, well mention this. She asked me. I said it had been closed and we’d got all the paper work. I was sat in the bank looking at it!!! 

 

He couldn’t understand why either so I basically told him how I felt. So let down by the whole company. 

 

One says one thing….. 

 

Another says another thing… 

 

NO ONE makes any sense. 

 

I give up with them… We have someone coming to the house on Thursday. Who set up the original mortgage and we’ll more than likely let him sort it all out. 

 

So fed up right now. 

 

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Koi…. 

 

After the trouble yesterday. I ended up treating the main pond. Took a dose and a half although not sure it was totally active for the full 4 hours as it was going dark. 

 

Pond has had a good water change today and will do again tomorrow and then will rescrape. 

 

All fish are swimming about. Temp is over 11d today. So heater is doing better. Even with the water changes. 

 

Fingers crossed. 🙂 

 

Love to ya all… 

 

D

Feb 23 2013

Stress and ED

So this last couple of weeks have been the utmost stressful. ( I am staying positive) honest…. 🙂

I wanted to reflect this morning while I had time on that. So here I go. Apologies to anyone stressing out at the moment. But these thoughts are sort of sticking out at the moment. And need to be ‘gotten rid of’ I can process my ED brain much easier with writing, than I can inside my own head.

So verbal splurge here I come. It may not even make sense to anyone, but me. But that is how it is. 🙂

I do have a good few friends who I am proud to say are also in recovery alongside me. And I have those who still struggle. Sometimes it is hard to read what they’re going through but they supported me through bad times and I will always be there for them through theirs.

In chatting to someone this morning about ED I did realise that these last few weeks have also heard my ED voices shouting louder.

Recovery is a great thing, I love life and want to do everything and anything. I want to be free of the pain and suffering an Eating Disorder can bring.

It is very tough though. Glad to say I am a fighter.

I’ve done very well since Christmas in getting my blood pressure and weight back under some control. But in being asked to lose weight freaks me out. Ed screams at me to return to him and then it becomes a constant battle to fight him off.

This last two weeks I’ve had so much on my plate that I’ve not had chance to really think about how it has tried to sneak back in.

Funny though, that stress leads to an ED sufferer wanting to start to regain control through the one thing they know will ultimately crash their entire world again.

With everything going on in my life at the moment. I do however have plenty of positive things. It isn’t all stressful. And I think, that the positive side of my life out balances ED’s tremendous effort to grab a hold again. I am very grateful for that.

I am throwing out old diaries and posting everything to here that is relevant.

Here is an old poem. Written in 2010.

I can’t imagine a life without you,

you rule my head, filling me with dread.

I can’t imagine why you hurt me so,

the inner pain won’t ever go.

I’ve fought you long, I’ve fought you hard,

you’re like over burnt toast, black and charred.

My head hurts, my heart aches,

the tiniest crack and your back to attack.

The pain I cause myself so bad, all I feed is sad.

to want this year to end,

to blend with all others,

to start afresh, not be hiding in this terrible flesh.

Apt for how I’m feeling right now. Although it is a new year. And so far many plus and minuses… 🙂

Outlook is positive though, keeping on keeping on.

Stay safe all…. and feel free to ignore these ramblings.